During his first week of being gone, I have sent him in array of text messages, asking questions, etc. and he replies with short...very short responses. He's always been like this and it drives me batty but it's just who he is. I guess I should be thankful that at least he responds, right? Another example for me. I have had, as I have said before, a very emotionally taxing week. A friend of mine called to talk with me yesterday, and had various things to ask..and me being "stressed" I spoke more frustrating to her then calm. It wasn't her fault I was stressed out, so why did I respond like that? But the beautiful thing is that God spoke to my heart and told me to talk to her and apologize. To explain what was wrong with me yesterday and why I felt stressed. Communication. It helped so much. Her words flowed to me of comfort and friendship. Our conversation eased to that of close friends and no more tension in the air. It was so easy to do and yet is so difficult for so many of us. I think it's also a lot about our relationship with God. So readily we are angry or resentful, stressed or unhappy..and we let our frustrations out on God. He is saddened when we cut our time with Him short. When we start to distance ourselves away from Him, consumed with life and stress, while He just waits patiently yet painfully waiting for us to return. He has done nothing wrong to deserve such treatment and yet we, just like I did with my friend, turn our backs to Him. It isn't fair and we shouldn't be like that. To anyone..especially our Father who has done so much for us. So...my lesson for you(and me) is communicate.
Communicate with your friends and brothers/sisters in Christ. Don't push anyone away with stresses and frustrations. Instead of holding anger inside...talk. Don't do anything foolish like I did. Wouldn't it have been so much easier if I was nice in the beginning and just told my friend how burdened and worried I was this week..instead if speaking harshly to her?
I have a GOB of wisdom on this from Gods word today
Proverbs 15:1 ESV
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Ephesians 4:32 ESV
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Proverbs 29:11 ESV
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
Ephesians 4:29 ESV
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
James 1:19-20 ESV
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Ephesians 4:31 ESV
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
Proverbs 12:18 ESV
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Psalm 37:8 ESV
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.
Proverbs 15:18 ESV
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.
James 1:19 ESV
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
Colossians 3:8 ESV
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.