For years I dreamed of this day. The day I would find my "one". The day I would be loved, taken care of,cherished,and more. The words I used to term it as was to be finally "complete".
Today's blog is about reality. Marriage is not a hallmark movie. It isn't sparkles and fireworks, walking amidst a loving mist for the rest of
your lives. It will not "complete" you or fill the empty void in your heart.
That was my biggest error in my past. I searched and searched for happiness. Yearned and desired for the "completeness".
If I just had that, I would be happy.
My dearest friends, that's not the case.
The big house next door won't make you happy, perfect kids,or the dream husband. Houses will fall apart, make you go farther into debt. Just a material thing.
Perfect kids? Perfect husband? Not going to happen. We are all flawed and imperfect. We each have broken pieces and are imperfectly marred in our moldings. No one is perfect. Well, except One.
The One who came to this world, not in a big house but in a stable, humble and poor. He did not seek to have much but was content with little.
He didn't need a mate to "complete" him, but just his Father. Accepting everyone around them as they were, not who they should be. Loved openly and freely, judging no one or condemning.
He didn't push or demand, but loved and cherished each one.
This is the One we need to live by. To understand that no one,
and I mean no one, will complete you, except Christ.
I am the loving testimony to that.
My life, and all the errors that I have made, were in seeking to fill the void only Christ could fill. The emptiness in my heart, no matter what I did, was still present. It wasn't until the day I opened His word and the tenderness of His love flowed out to me, that I finally felt my cup filling.
The happiness that I had searched for, for so long, was finally at my finger tips.
As His love moved over me, my life started to change drastically. I needed and desired less. Material items became less and less important. I didn't need one to "compete" me anymore..only Christ.
So what has this to do with my marriage now?
God has opened my eyes to the moment, that before I said I do, I knew in my heart it wasn't going to complete me.
Why? Because I was already complete. Sure, I am still broken and chipped. Marred and flawed from imperfection. But He loves me still.
He forgives me when I fail...but helps me to get back on the right path.
Marriage is the same way. I accept my husbands imperfections and love him still. He won't be my knight in shining armor, but just a simple man. He won't always do things the way I want or say the perfect thing. BUT we have one thing that makes our marriage strong. That will pull us through the many storms ahead. God. It isn't man that will save us or material things. We lay our trust each moment, be it finances or anything else, in His hands.
Look to Proverbs and remember her life. She worked hard and devoted her time to taking care of her family. You don't hear of all the husband did, only what she did. She didn't whine or complain, but worked hard into the night, taking pride in what she did, making sure her family was taken care of.
She honored God and glorified Him..taking care of others made her happy. To lose the focus on herself and direct it to someone else.
Empty of selfish desires. That's what we, as children of God, need to be like.
This is the woman I so yearn to be.
Do not worry about tomorrow or the troubles at hand. Do not search for something or someone to complete you. Fill your heart and soul with Christ, then all things will work out perfectly, for our Father is the master potter. We are just broken pieces of clay that He is fixing and molding to perfection.
Let's be like our Proverbs 31 woman today. Less worry of what others are doing or not doing, and concentrate on what we can do for them. Be gentle and kind, unselfish and forgiving. The image of our Father.
She's respected in her own right and is not afraid of the future. She speaks words of gentle wisdom and teaches kindness to others. She is never lazy and watches over the affairs of her family.