Wait..what? You tell me what marriage is? A person who has never been married? I know what you were thinking when I mentioned that..
Got you, didn't I? Hate to break it to you, but that was my intentions from the start. I cannot for the life of me even begin to tell you what it is or isn't..but God can. God can prepare in me what I need to be for that person He has prepared for me. I've already started the journey of this and just want to share with you as I go. As many of you know, when you accept God into your life, it's like turning a mirror straight at you. The flaws you never knew you had before, you start to see. These flaws I see now, I know as to why I have not married yet. I see past mistakes and am glad I am not yet. I had to be fixed before I accepted anyone else into my life. This new journey will be that for you. Listen, no one can fill the void that only God can fill.
No one can fix your brokenness but God. That was my first error. For many years I searched for
someone to fill the void only He could fill. Second, I am selfish. Boy, has that been a struggle. From a world centered in "I", learning to switch it to someone else was really hard. Marriage, according to God, is about submission. That wives must submit to their husbands(1 Peter 3:5). How in the world could I have been able to submit to someone in my own selfish bubble? God designed us women to be a certain special way and men also. Men the caretakers and leaders of the family..women as the homemakers and support. To love them with all of our heart and body. As is true, when it is said that when we leave our homes we cleave to our husbands..no longer on mom and dads terms, but as one. I'm very glad for the chance God gave me in fixing all this before I took the leap into marriage. I am sad that I didn't learn these things before in broken relationships. I see my fault now. Again the mirror turned at me. As I found proverbs for the first time, my heart felt so grim. How could I ever become such a woman. Oh Father, she sounds so perfect. So unselfish and so happy. They love her so. And this is when I started to pray. A years journey began for me to become her. You see, in marriage, God is the answer. He can make anything impossible, possible. I know this because as the year has gone, I have become more and more my dream woman. The self centered girl is still there at times, but by Gods guidance, He is slowly changing her. It's been hard and painful, but worth it.
The change wasn't immediate but was long and drawn out.
I hope that in this new journey and this blog of becoming the perfect mate for your husband/wife or future husband/wife, that you will find Gods words of blessing as I have. Remember, with God...He can move mountains. All you have to do is have faith.
Your first step and goal today is prayer. Ask God for His help in your life. To fix what is broken and help to become the person needed for your mate or future mate. To ask for this, not in your terms, but Gods terms.
That was my biggest mistake before. I prayed a selfish prayer and in hindsight, have learned to pray for Gods will not my will..
He knows best after all.
And I will ask the Father and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever, that is the Spirit of Truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it does not behold Him or know Him, but you know Him because he abides in you, and will be in you. John 14:16-17
Book I am blogging with: The excellent wife
By Martha Peace