"The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands"
So which are you? The wise or the foolish? Do you catch yourself looking down your nose at someone in your life, be it husband or family? Bickering and bemoaning what they aren't doing. Criticizing what they are wearing or making fun of what they are doing?
Do you make fun of them with other people, talking about all their shortcomings and failures?
Do you compare their failures to others?
"It is better to live in a desert land then with a contentious and vexing woman" Proverbs 21:19
I can tell you right now, I would hate to be that type of woman, that I was so bitter that it made someone want to live in a desert, as long as they were away from me.
I mean, who would want to live under the roof of a person who was constantly critical and disrespectful. There it is. The word for today. Respect. Do you have it? Even if the person or people in our lives don't seem to deserve it, God asks us to show it irregardless. For how can we show love to anyone around us when we don't show respect. It doesn't matter what the education level is...we are all equal. It doesn't matter who makes more money..we all leave with nothing in the end. Yet we are all guilty of being exactly the opposite of this. I will take the stand and admit I have most definitely been this. For example, my mom and I got into an argument the other day..mainly because I answered the wrong way instead of the right way. Instead of taking a moment to breathe and respond with love, I snapped and grumbled..causing both of us to become on edge. God quickly showed me my wrong and guided me into asking for forgiveness. Respect. We need it in any relationship. It's a big one in marriage. Irregardless of the person deserving it or not, you need to show them it. How can we show Christ if we belittle His creation. His children? For that's what we are doing to each other when we cause strife and contention. Marriage will be miserable if you can't fix this. That is the fastest way to push someone away from you, but being disrespectful. Fastest way to lose the love you are being to critical of. Say you dont think he loves you enough or helps you around the house enough. Do you think that being bitter and angry will help? Doubt it. I know first hand, I am much more willing to help someone who is kind to me and asks me nicely then someone who snaps and snarls. Remember..feelings are a indicator, not a dictator.
"Pleasant words are like honey-sweet to the taste and healthful to the body" Proverbs 16:24
"A merry heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit drains your strength."
So..do you want to be good medicine or be someone that drains your strength? It takes more time to be bitter then happy. To be kind then mean. To talk respectfully to someone then nasty.
Sugar gets a lot more done then spice.
So goal today. Instead of being contentious and disrespectful, think of ways to lift your special person up.
Instead if being critical to them or telling others their shortcomings, praise them. As for married couples. Be blessed. Coming from a single person..one is a lonely number. Cherish this person God has given you. Even if they can drive you mad at times, imagine what life would be without them. What would happen if you lost them today? So...try to change disrespect for respect today.
Remember to be slow to speak...
Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak...
for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am in.
..and wives are to respect their husbands in loving mutuality.