Ok..so to even begin to understand what your future role would be in a relationship or if you are in one now, is to try to figure out God first. If you are anything like me, coming from a single parent home where you took care of everything, learning to be submissive is hard. It was usually always my way or the highway so to speak.
So..who is God. I really like how my book, "the excellent wife" goes in to describe more about Him. First and foremost that He has a plan for me and you. A ministry.
Then The Lord God said,"It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.
You see, from the beginning God designed us women to have a special role. To help our husbands, to lift them up. To support them in their life. At times, I can see how hard that could be when your day has gone completely off. I will use my parenting as an example. My role as a mom is to keep my home an oasis and shelter from the storm. Yesterday, I failed at that. It took a few bad things to happen and I felt down trodden. God has been so good to me and even still, if we aren't careful negativity can ruin our days. I was more short to them and frustrated. But, it's how we handle it in the end that solves the problem. Fighting and anger won't help, but God will. He is such a compassionate God. He hears our cries.(psalms 116:1,2,5)
From arguing with my oldest to taking a moment to pray together. It was during this prayer that I felt the heaviness lift and peace come over me. We both smiled at each other and all was well. Just like that. All it took was giving it to God and He made it all better.
You see, God designed us a special way. A special role. Instead of looking down on the fact of being submissive to someone else, think of the honor.
God loved you so much that He gave you someone to take care of you. To make sure you were ok. Sure, he will fail you at times and disappoint you..he's human after all, but God still designed him to be your caretaker. But there's a double side in this. Your role. What an honor to be someone's helper. You were designed to be the person responsible to lifting them up and helping them along the way. Just like me and my parenting. It's my job to lift my kids up and show Christ in each step I take. That when we fight..just like in relationships, we need to ALWAYS give it to God. Don't try to handle it your way. It won't work. You ruin any relationship that way. Shutting people out if your angry at them only hurts you and others around you. It's the gathering together in prayer, communing with God, that is so healing. Instead of being critical of what they aren't doing, look to what they are doing. Instead of looking to all the things they have failed at, look to you and what you could do to help. After all, helper right? To me, I take away from this as also a way to be in my life as a Christian. What kind of helper would I be to God if all I did was walk around with a frown on my face, handling things my way. Judging people as they come in and out of my life..being critical of what they are or are not doing. We can all be guilty of this. It takes Gods role in our lives to open our hearts,minds, and ears to be willing to change. So goal today.
Be a helper. Instead of being critical to anyone around you today..help. When you catch yourself thinking anything along those lines, stop. Think about what you could do to help them instead. It makes a huge difference. Turning from self to others around you. God is good and He will help you along the way.
She looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight...she senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night...strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future... Her husband also, and he praises her saying, "many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.